I believe it is a lack of comitment. I think people in the west think love and comitment go hand in hand but our definition of love is really skewed, out of wack. I think most westerners feel that we are powerful because we live in such a powerful nation. But the people that run the western world are a very scared and paranoid people, full of fear. This is why we spend so much money on "defense". There is no definable enemy, but yet we have this huge infrastructure that is based on defense. When was the last time America was invaded? Never. So why the bombs, ships, missles, planes etc. Because it is all about control. This is the paranoid rulers definition of love. I must control you, and your every action. Our definitions come from the rulers and what we are taught in school i.e. how to act, what to wear, what not to wear, how to speak, what not to say. But we think that our actions are our own but they are not. We have been controlled since the womb. So when it comes to love it is based on Possessing and controlling. And there in is the problem. Woman the Ancient ancestor and creator of all living cannot be possessed and controlled. We in the west have not learned to control our egos.
There is something called the Will and the Ego. The Will is suppose to be ruler of the head and body but the Ego here in the west is ruler. The Ego runs rampant with wants and desires thinking this is the natural state of being but it is not. The Will has been suppressed by the Ego. The Will is suppose to be in control of the head and Ego. So our natural state here in the west is based on an Ego driven society and not a will based society. So beauty, riches, materialism rain supreme i.e. all these things are considered "Maia" an illusion, not real, won't last and are temporary pleasures.
These are some of the reasons that relationships don't last. Because our Ego's get in the way. When the Will has something important to say the Ego tells the Will to shut up because it is all about me, when relationships are not about me but about me caring for you no matter what. Even if you hurt me or my feelings my will says to continue to care continue to love not to the point of danger but to care and love. The Ego says "whateva, I am out". The Ego says and believes it is all about it when it never was. The Ego is temporary but the Will is permanent.
Some relationship do not work out because of the lack of communication. They guess each other outcomes because of that fact that they know how they are but in reality we change everyday and learn new ideas and communicating will be a great asset in the relationship. I also believe if they put God first and follow his ruling they will have a spirituality fulfillment in their home and love life.
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